I hear it all the time. "My dad used to make me sit at the table until I ate everything on my plate." Or, "my mom sent me right to bed after dinner if I didn't finish my meal."
Not me! I was never forced to eat anything. I didn't eat meat until I was 10. If my mom made roast beef, I had pasta. If we were eating lasagna, my mom made a small lasagna just for me with no meat...just the way I liked it. I ate things I wanted to eat and I was never forced to finish my meal. When I tell people this, they look at me like "wow, your mom's crazy." But I dunno, I think it worked out well.
I am a healthy eater. Sure I can down a bag of Doritos like nobody's business, but I eat well. I eat a balanced diet and I eat meat, veggies, and fruit every day. I just don't understand what the lesson is in making your child feel like eating is a punishment. To let them know you "have to eat what's put in front of you." I get that not everyone in the world has the privilege to eat what they want, but you can make the same argument for taking 20 minutes showers when people have to walk miles for a glass of water.
I like asking her what she wants to eat, because then I know she'll eat it. or most of it anyway. And honestly, I don't like arguing or causing conflict when it's really not necessary. I understand not everyone agrees with this (her dad included) but hey, I'm usually the one making the dinner and I really don't mind.
What are your thoughts? Did you have to eat what was put in front of you? Do you make your kid sit at the table until they are finished eating?